As a urologist, I’ve spent my career talking to thousands of men about their health. But one of the most important conversations should happen long before they become adults or see me – during puberty. Puberty is a huge transition for boys, and it can be overwhelming. But many parents are too embarrassed to talk to their sons about these changes, leaving boys to get information from unsuitable sources like friends, social media, and pornography.
To fill this gap, parents and mentors need to have honest conversations about the changes boys go through and make sure they know it’s okay to ask questions. This can include normalizing unexpected things like erections and teaching boys how to care for themselves, including proper hygiene and self-exams.
Boys also need to learn about consent and respect in relationships, as well as the importance of self-care, nutrition, exercise, and sleep. During puberty, boys’ emotions are also in flux, and it’s essential to let them know it’s okay to feel everything they’re going through. Encouraging them to find healthy outlets for their emotions can make a big difference.
Finally, boys need to know that what they see online isn’t always real, and it’s crucial to reject impossible beauty standards. They should focus on being the best version of themselves, rather than trying to live up to others. By keeping the lines of communication open, boys can become stronger, healthier, and more confident young men.